Dear Abbey: Quit being so fat!!!

Diet Journal, Day 1.

Dear Abbey, it’s time to quit being a fatass.

If you are younger than 25 I am guessing you don’t even know who “Dear Abbey” is. Back in the day before the internet, people had to write into the newspaper to ask for advice, and “Dear Abbey” was a column you could write into. Imagine that; you couldn’t just hashtag #lifehack and find all the answers to your life problems.

Anyways, as a joke in high school, some people would call me out as “Dear Abbey” and ask me for odd advice.

Well, now it’s time for me to give myself advice.

I have always struggled with my weight. In high school and my early twenties, I managed it with eating disorders. I expect that is a rather normal but extremely unhealthy thing for a young girl to go through, and luckily I outgrew that phase of my life without any terrible side effects.

In my mid twenties, I managed with exercise. I didn’t love my weight, but I was okay with it. I mostly ran, and would do some occasional pilates. I was also very active and spent my weekends in the summer golfing, swimming, etc., and the winters I went snowboarding frequently.

At 29, I got surprise pregnant with my daughter. I gained about 32lbs with my pregnancy, which was more than I had wanted, but wasn’t so much that I was unhappy with myself since I know people who struggled with gaining a whole lot more.

Within 6 weeks of having a baby, I was back down to my pre-baby weight. On maternity leave I was able to go for long walks during the day, pretty much every day which was nice. I was eating relatively healthy, making sure to not over eat, but didn’t have to watch this too much since my metabolism was in a good place thanks to breastfeeding. I was super proud of myself!

Then, I went back to work. I spent 10-11 hours a day, 5 days a week at work and commuting. I wasn’t able to walk with my baby regularly anymore. I was worn out from newborn life, and felt guilty for my long days, so I decided some snuggle time with my baby was more important than working out after work. +5LBS

My breast milk dried up and I wasn’t able to breastfeed anymore. +5LBS

6 months postpartum after stopping breastfeeding, my hormones CRASHED out of control. I got eczema. My hair fell out. I had my period for 4 months straight. Had to start a special high hormone birth control to counter this and get me back to normal. +5LBS

12 months postpartum, extreme postpartum depression became obvious and was much beyond what I could handle without medication. Started antidepressant medications. +10LBS

Here I am. 25LBS heavier than I thought I could ever be… So super fat that I can’t even believe it. None of my jeans fit. I got married almost 7 months pregnant and was 10 LBS LIGHTER than I am now. UGH.

It never occurred to me I could loose control of my weight. My weight has always fluctuated easily, but with some light exercise and smart eating I could keep it within a range where I was happy. I look at pictures of myself now and just can’t believe that is me and am genuinely embarrassed.

The dumb part is I KNOW WHAT TO DO! I know what it takes to control my weight and have done a good job of it in the past. So, I am going to rewind to my pre-baby days, take no excuses, and loose this weight and keep it off. I have to so that I can feel like myself again.

I think the biggest thing I need to improve is my accountability. I tell my husband that I am going to eat healthy and work out, but often it doesn’t happen. Or it will happen and I loose 5 LBS, then we fall off the wagon on a pizza and beer night and I gain it all back. So, what better way to keep yourself accountable than on your BLOG which is public for the whole world to see!!?! Some people only blog about their weight loss journeys alone and I don’t intend to do that, but I do plan to blog more healthy meals, and weekly check-ins on my progress.

So, day 1 of my journey, I am blogging this. For breakfast I had black coffee and gluten free cereal with skim milk. For lunch I made hubby and I delicious turkey bacon Caesar salads. For dinner, we are having protein bowls with brown rice, beets, chickpeas and green beans. I will do some Pilates tonight, and continue to find some time to exercise every day, even if it is only for a short period of time. My goal is to loose these 25 LBS and be happy with how I feel about myself again!

Below are some motivational pictures for myself – what I looked like before these extra pounds.


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19 Replies to “Dear Abbey: Quit being so fat!!!”

  1. So happy to have found your lifestyle blog. Day one sounded like a huge success in getting the whole family to eat healthy meals. I wish you nothing but success and look forward to following your blogging journey.

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  2. Dear Losing Weight In Seattle,

    I totally understand where you are coming from. But I promise you three things.

    1. You are the most beautiful woman your husband and baby have ever seen. When you stand in the mirror and look at your extra weight, you see frustration. But your daughter sees who she wants to grow up to be. I promise that you will never regret trading dress sizes for leftover cheerios and baby kisses.

    2. Your body is just as perfect as it was -25 pounds ago. It wakes up every morning and guides you through life. I promise you that your body isn’t your enemy and when you love it for all that is does, like dancing under the star, running to catch up with those you love, and carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you’ll find it easier to fight for it to be healthy no matter what the scale says.

    3. I used to be a “fatass” and then I wasn’t. Did I lose the 25 pounds? Nope… I just forgave myself for them. And why? Because one day my daughter stood in front of her mirror and I heard her say… ” fatass” as she turned around. And that was what I taught her to think of her body. I promise you that your family hates hearing mean things being said about you, even more when you say them about yourself.

    Good luck my friend,
    Crysta

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    1. Aw girl, this is such a sweet post, thank you! I do agree with you very much – my daughter tells me I am pretty all the time, and I do make sure to never shame my body in front of her since I don’t ever want her to pick up bad body image habits. I am a very sarcastic person so I may sound a little harsher on myself than I am in real life. But I do feel like I am at the point where a few less french fries and a few more salads would benefit me 🙂 There are times where I just don’t feel healthy, and I want to make sure that I take good care of my body and am a good example for my daughter when it comes to eating healthy and getting exercise, in a positive way 🙂

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  3. The struggle is real. We know what we need to do, yet we still eat four of those delicious chocolate chip cookies that my 14 year old son just pulled out of the oven (yes…this happened just before I read your post). Anyway, one time I read something that talked about our “happy” weight. The one that was healthy, but also manageable. Where we don’t have to count out exactly how many carrots we can eat. We just eat the carrots. The weight where we can splurge when we want and it won’t wreck everything as long as we find the balance. I just try to live in that reality…my “happy” weight.

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    1. That sounds great! I think I’m too far on the splurge side at the moment but can get to the happy weight. I LOVE cooking and baking for holidays so that seems to be where I really get bad… st patty’s Day just did me in. Gotta reel myself in for Easter

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  4. I can’t imagine what having a baby does to your body so thank you for sharing. The struggle is always real and my small advise to you and you already probably know it, try not to eat past 7 pm and exercise at least 3 times a week for 30 minutes. Drink lots of water and try to stay motivated. You can cheat once in a while but keep your focus. You are beautiful and wish you all the best ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much for this! I think some people are lucky and a baby doesn’t wreak havoc on them, and for other bodies it is TOUGH! I appreciate the advice and everyone’s comments are helping me keep my focus a lot 🙂

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      1. Glad to be of some help. My partner and I include many health tips on artofbeingfabulous.com if you have any time to read. Also I am on Instagram @fashionablefitgirl and I post some work out videos if you are interested. Would like to connect there too ❤️

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  5. I gained 55 pounds with my son, he’s only 10 weeks old so I’m actually still 15 pounds over my prepregnancy weight. It’s frustrating because I’ve never been big, or overweight and here I am still unable to fit back in my jeans. But the weight is coming off, so long as I’m mindful and don’t over eat, breastfeeding and walks have helped be drop the first 35 pounds.
    Like you, I need to hold myself accountable for excersise. It’s ao difficult with baby in tow now, because I’d rather cuddle than excersise. But that’ll just make us both couch potatoes and I don’t want that.
    Good luck to you!

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    1. Yes it sounds like we are very much in the same boat. I very much want those snuggles, but I don’t want her to grow up without exercise or thinking it’s okay to be a couch potato. We have started dance and swim classes for her, so that has been good in keeping us both active 🙂

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